We went from headaches to mental health fairly quickly. I asked him what he did for his own mental health? His answer: “I don’t know what it is.” Fair enough. An honest answer! A few beats passed and he asked, what do YOU do for your mental health? Touché!
I told him that for my mental health, I exercise, hang out with uplifting people, do arty stuff, meditate.
He perked up about the meditation. He said he tried it but it didn’t work. He had done it twice, each time for 2 hours. I told him that was very ambitious! How about shorter, like 10-15 minutes a day?
He asked how does it feel, when you are in the zone of meditation? This is a good question and I wasn’t sure how to answer. English was not his first language so when I used words like peaceful, it didn’t fly. So, I motioned like I was unscrewing the top of my head, and said, “it’s like if you took the top of your head off and poured fresh water through it; rinsed it out with water and light.
His eyes lit up and he said, “oh!”
He left with a new approach to meditation.
What is good mental health?
Here is a list of eight things I was told in school (Oregon college of Oriental Medicine, Portland, Oregon).
Signs of good mental health could be the ability to:
- Develop emotionally, creatively, and spiritually.
- Initiate, develop, and sustain healthy relationships.
- Face problems, resolve them, learn from them.
- Be confident and assertive.
- Have awareness of others, ability to empathize with them.
- Use and enjoy solitude.
- Play and have fun.
- Laugh at yourself and at the world (takes tremendous amount of self esteem and inner strength to laugh at oneself).
*We need enough life force to initiate and develop ourselves. Always look for and find ways to cultivate your life force.
The above list came from an academic course, which was directed toward working with addiction and mental health.
These are guidelines, points of reference. I think we need to identify in writing some concepts of good mental health. It’s time to be concrete rather than vague.
Why don’t more people have answers for good mental health? Why does it seem slippery? Lately, I see a need for solid footing in this subject. Let’s start somewhere. And go beyond, “see a counselor.” Some won’t get there, so what are common sense concepts in the meantime? As in, let’s get some movement on the ground floor, within our reach and not make supporting general mental health too confusing.
My point is, we all need to bring this care into our own lives, even if we are not in the middle of a mental health crisis. If we wait for that, it’s a harder place to set up aid and self care.
The next list is from a Quaker group I attended, so it has a spiritual leaning. The topic was Universal Spiritual Elements.
Universal Spiritual Elements
- Awareness of the “other.” What is valued or sacred? What do you value over yourself?
2. Sense of responsibility. How am I responsible for the world around me? How do treat my space, surroundings, people, pets?
3. Sense of vocation. What is my reason for being? What gives meaning or purpose?
4. Sense of community. Is there a sense of caring and being cared for? Who are my people? Who do I trust?
5. Sense of repentance. What is my capacity for reconciliation with self and others. Mistakes are entry points for healing forgiveness.
6. Ability to be present. Is my focus past, present, or future oriented. Soul lives in present. Past: ego. Future: ego.
7. Faith. What is the relationship between my small story fitting into the bigger story. To connect to a sense of the transcendent, what do you relate to?
Having trouble figuring out how to integrate all this into your life? That’s o.k., pick one thing and start there. Remember to have fun. Practice, practice, practice.
In my view, we should be having conversations and taking action everyday toward cultivating good head and heart space.
Leave a comment to say which or what called to you.
Back to meditation, if you want a great kickstart, go to https://chopracentermeditation.com/experience.
It’s a great 21-day simple guided meditation. It fits into any schedule! It starts Monday the 30th. The theme is Making Every Moment Matter.